personal preferences are well known to anybody who's chatted with me
for five minutes or read any of the stuff I've written.
the broadest range of "S'n'M'n'Bondage" activities, what I
like and dislike often seems severely limited in scope.
Information Bank on this site covers the widest possible range
of 'wrapping, strapping, chaining and tying' options. Knowing
what pushes other people's buttons does not mean you have to share their
specific enthusiasms. Site visitors are encouraged to pick-and-mix to
satisfy their own personal taste here ...
BUT ... on this page, the focus is on my own particular enthusiasms.
has always been the name of the game for me,
and writing things down has often helped to clarify ideas for myself
... and for others who read what I have written.
When introducing printed collections of correspondence or stories
in the past, I've often struggled to explain where I'm "at".
At the risk of repeating text on this site, below are a few excerpts
from autobiographical notes written to introduce various text (which
are on this site, but to avoid distracting cut-aways - you'll find
all links at the end of this page).
magazine interview I gave many years ago began ...
always known what 'turned me on' even before I knew what being sexually
aroused meant. What excited my imagination and fired-up my fantasies
were hectic and competitive bouts of Cops and Robbers, Cowboys and Indians
and war games.
These were usually played with an older brother and his mates, so capture
- and 'punishment' was almost inevitable for the smallest member of
the gang - and was a big part of the excitement.
The focus changed when, at the age of nine, I first heard about HARRY
HOUDINI. His exploits seemed to embody more specifically my favourite
imagery of challenge and fighting restraints ... and not always winning.
Earlier still, at the age of six, some vague instinct first made me
climb into my father's tall rubber boots and tie myself to a drainpipe
while the family was out. I knew enough to keep that secret even from
my closest friends. But, ever since, I've been trying to gain a clearer
understanding; not so much of WHY - but HOW I could enjoy these natural
instincts more potently and more often ...
information on fetish and bondage was thin on the ground when instinct
first drove me in search of 'like-minded misfits'. Communication in
those pre-Internet days was severely limited - and sexual stereotyping
ruled, even in those hard-to-find and expensive Alternative Sex publications.
I wasn't into glamour fetish or master/slave homo-erotica. Trying to
explain the focus of my interests was easier in writing ... so ...
introduction to the first collection of stories I wrote filled in
more biographical information:
what you're getting into here. You'll find no elegant restraint, no
comfortable let's-pretend 'bondage' or stylish high-fashion fetish;
no graphic descriptions of genitalia or penetrative sex ... here's a
wide range of sensual and psychological, rather than overtly sexual
sex opportunities are 'optional extras' which your
mind can add to suit your personal taste.
if the sensual appeal of strong canvas, tarpaulin, tough hide
(rather than dress leather), oilskin, industrial-weight rubber and army
gear excite your erotic imagination ... (plus, of course, it's restrictive
potential) you're in the right place.
another collection of three stories, I wrote ...
more of what other people fantasise about (and sometimes achieve) would
have helped me in my early explorations. Today, imaginative would-be
game-players, whatever their sexual orientation, can benefit by knowing
what pushes other people's buttons.
Enjoy each scenario for what's in it for you - then adapt and expand
it to your own taste - and either turn a similar situation into reality
- or build on it mentally to make your own private fantasy more potent.
Jim Stewart - June 2002.
angle on personal preference
is the concept of altering other people's fiction, adding or subtracting
to suit your own personal tastes.
This topic is discussed in the introduction to my personal 'adaptation'
a story originally written by Derek Arnold.
For more details check out MAN-TO-MAN
STUFF in STORYLINES
my personal likes and dislikes seem to match yours
you'll find more under headings ...
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