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CONTINUED - GMSMA EVENING November 13th '97 =
(MY NOTES TO PROMPT MYSELF WHILE TALKING)

PERSONALIZATION: ...
Horrible word - but that is the real theme tonight.
Now ... most of us know what we like ... or think we know;
The general scope of the territory ... our list of established favourites ...
how we like our scenarios to turn out

... but hopefully we're open to suggestion and to exploring new territory.

So ... any process that helps us to clarify our preferences ...
... or our agenda ... to know our own mind ...
... means that when we're on the lookout for someone ... or we meet someone ...
we are able to communicate our preferences to others ...
... because our focus is sharper

Even people who aren't yet quite sure where their preferences lie ...
... and are game to try anything ... it's good ... to be open to experiment ... but
... when you ask someone what they're into ...
- "Oh, Anything" - is not exactly helpful.

AS A STARTING POINT
I usually encourage people to make for themselves what I call a Julie Andrews list ...
"These are a few of my favourite things."
Just to get a focus ... You can always build on the list.

Our personal likes and dislikes ...
whether instinctive or the result of experience ...
... are limiting in some way ... and that is not a bad thing.
The difference between a turn-on and complete tun-of ... is often a very fine line
For example, it irritates the hell out of me when a magazine story starts with
characters I can lust after ...
Wearing gear that turns me on ... in a situation I can relate to ...
Then, after a hundred words the gear I particularly like is in a pile on the floor ...
and these two characterless (in my mind) characters are doing things that do nothing for me.

So - am I saying ... personal preferences limit us?
No - I'm saying that keeping an open mind is one thing - BUT
Keeping focus when mentally generating a specific fantasy scenario is another.

CUSTOMISE ...
Is that the same as personalise?

When I first began to explore my sexuality, having come to terms with what did
and didn't turn me on ...
... I still found that S&M / LEATHER fiction in the early 60s was strangely out-of-key with my personal tastes.
I loved certain illustrations and, as I said, the way a lot of those stories started ...
and I soon got the hang of editing out and, where necessary, substituting my own alternatives.

A lot of Drummer magazine illustrations offered wonderful starting points ... but after the initial impact ... I was on my own ...
... soon convinced that I was something of an odd-ball.

Only later did I discover that a whole other breed of individual was waiting for a bondage as distinct from S&M magazine to arrive.

Physique Pictorial at that time provided me with more potent fantasy fodder:
a single image would be enough for me to visualise a dream scenario ...
... combining perhaps three specific images
... could perhaps give me a situation - location - starting point

S&M fiction at that time ...
... was mostly of the master/slave variety ...
... It seldom mentioned (let alone explored in detail)
the sort ... of subtle, sensual, sustained physical restraint, control and counter-control and Power Exchange situations that particularly appeal to me.

That's why I first wrote down one of my sexual fantasies ...
I used to mentally construct my own detailed scenario packed with my personal turn-on imagery to beat off over ...
So ... after several sessions imagining my way through the same basic scenario ...
I decide to write it down ... purely for my own amusement ...
... well, not pure exactly.

'Scenario For A Leather Fantasy' was written over 15 years ago ...
and it might still be called a 'work in progress' because I've been kicking it around and revisiting it regularly ever since ...

Well, it still contains a lot of what continue to be my favourite turn-ons.
But even way back then, part of what I wrote was about 'visualisation'.
Here is how the first-draft version started all those years ago:-

INTRODUCE READING OF OPENING 'PROLOGUE' OF ORIGINAL SCENARIO
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THEN DESCRIBE OPENING SCENE - INTRODUCE 'Scene One' = "Reverie" with single static video camera covering the leather-clad and strait-jacketed figure's movements. These are shown on two TV screens as the various phases of struggle are described by the LEATHERMAN as he reclines on the leather bed.

AT END OF SCENE ONE ... TV SCREENS ARE SWITCHED OFF ABRUPTLY ...

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