In letters, phone calls and face-to-face sessions (and more recently via the internet) literally hundreds of people have been generous enough to share their very personal enthusiasms with others.

The bulk of comment previously published under the titles "Letters from the Fetters Files" or "So I Like To Get Tied up ... So What! !?" is opinion expressed by game-players in their own words. All now transferred to the 'Topics Index', the style of each individual text entry is still informal (to put it politely), because I have always encouraged people to what I call 'prattle onto paper' ... and that's how the material stays.

In the introduction to the first printed collection of letters to and from FETTERS I advise:- "To hell with literary style - getting your ideas to flow is what counts."

As the list of named 'topics' grows, the strongly felt opinions or anxious questions received will bubble across every page as the newly edited texts are sorted and given subject headings on the growing list. Conflicting opinions abound in the existing material and you are left to agree or disagree or work it out for yourself - but the information being more generally available is what makes the early phases of the 'Talking and Listening' project worthwhile and worth continuing with via this site.

The leaflet which announced the original series put it in a nutshell -
and it still applies today: ...

 

YOU ARE INVITED TO CONTRIBUTE
Whatever shade of kink you're into, feel free to let us know you're point of view; on any subject remotely related, if it's something you feel strongly about (or if somebody else's comment pushes any buttons in your brain), please share your thoughts on the topic.
Don't be intimidated. Whether we just gossip on the phone, meet for a drink, swop a few E-mails ... the resulting exchange of opinions may eventually be of value to somebody else out there in the wilderness. There's no betrayal of trust, because all comment is published anonymously."

The TALKING AND LISTENING programme continues on an international scale - and sharing the results has now become my main objective.

The originality of players never ceases to amaze me, and circulation of suitably anonymous photos or written text has become technically so much easier. For many people, the actual sharing of ideas is, in itself, a big step. But, for an individual to expand on personal turn-ons mentally and then verbally or in writing, can be very liberating.

Hours of enjoyment on many different levels are to be gained by first getting your own private thoughts into better focus, and then preparing to share them with others through a completely safe (and anonymous) medium.

I have chosen a few pictures showing a few of the dozens of game-playing alternatives my 'Talking and Listening' cronies enjoy. The planning and taking of photos is only one of the ways to get your fantasies into better focus - and make them more potent for either private or shared enjoyment. (As discussed in the "Get closer to your fantasies" workshop notes)

WHERE ARE YOU 'AT' -
AND HOW DID YOU GET THERE?
Putting it into words can be a rewarding experience.
Follow this link for a good example of somebody telling their own story;
THE JOURNEY