ADD INTRODUCTORY TEXT
NAMES OF THE GAMES - EDIT chapter in 'Confessions from Suburbial'
I KNOW WHAT I LIKE - BUT WHAT IS IT CALLED? a magazine article
WHAT'S IN A NAME - Talking Point Five
ARE PHYSICAL RESTRAINT GAMES S&M? - Talking Point Nine
IS BONDAGE A FETISH -
Talking Point Ten
NAMES OF THE GAMES -
chapter in 'So I Like To Get Tied-up ... So What?'
Bondage - What's in a Name (one of "Twelve Topics: a discussion document")
Like so many other words, Bondage flashes up different images in the imaginations of different people.
Again, Sally Barrett had something to say on the topic:
... Bondage when I was at school was something Shylock yattered on about in Shakespeare. In the Bible people always seemed to be getting themselves into or out of bondage, and in the NEWS OF THE WORLD a bondage shock horror story is anything from a fully furnished dungeon in the basement to a roll of cellotape in a bedside table drawer.
Are physical restraint games S&M? (another of the Twelve Topics)
There are distinctions some people like to make and others think unimportant. MORE
Consent & Consensual non-consent (two topics?)
The distinction between being submissive and being forced to submit is only one of the enjoyable confusions here. Definition of the word consent has kept the British Law Reform Society busy for the past ten years. In my sort of game-playing it's important to get it right. MORE
This series of discussion points Erotic Bondage: Twelve Topics, each was the basis for further examination of a specific word, topic or concept. MORE
Sally Barrett's ironically titled little book 'Confessions From Suburbia' (originally titled We Love S&M) is a good example of informal jottings turning into something more valuable.was a direct result of early ‘Talking and Listening' material‘. Part of this husband and wife's process of self-discovery in suburban isolation is discussed in a chapter about the meaning of words. Under the heading ‘The Names of the Games' she wrote: Other correspondence and
Sadism and Masochism were words I'd never even had in my mouth before the age of 25. I'd read them, maybe even heard them said at work; sniggered about in that nudge-nudge-wink-wink way people do. "Nudge-nudge-wink-wink - we know what we mean, don't we!" But, no! They don't really know, they just think they know.
Certainly at that time the sort of games Malc and I occasionally played weren't sadistic or masochistic in the Sunday newspaper sense of the words - but they were decidedly kinky - whatever that means. Other words like fetish and perversion gave us the same problems in the early days. I looked them up in a dictionary but the definitions didn't seem to relate to anything my Malcolm liked to get up to. MORE
I know what I like - but what is it called (magazine article)
Written for the sadly now defunct ‘Fetish Times, the title speaks for itself. It might amuse.ssssss
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LEAD-IN FROM 'TERRITORIES' INTORUDCES COMMUNICATIONS SKILLS
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Vocabulary
A
lot of cross-references in this file.
Words in popular use can mean dangerously different things to different
people.