years I've listened to people trying to explain what pushes their buttons,
or why they prefer this more than that.
To fire-up your imagination there's a link to a whole file of useful text and pictures later.
Reading cold print is often not as much fun as action. Writing stuff
down can be a chore, but the
physical process can help to untangle a complicated idea: difficult
for some people, but it often pays dividends. For years I've been saying
"Listen to you instincts and, just as an experiment, jot things
down." I'm not talking literature - it can be as simple as a shopping
list. Later, you can read more about my Julie Andrews list (These
are a few of my favourite things).
Precise choice of words (written or spoken) is a topic I've irritated a lot of people by
nagging about - especially people whose natural instinct is to get on
and do it rather than talk about it. All very well, until you try to
find somebody you want to do IT with ... whatever IT is. Choice of the
right word might mean the difference between a hit and a near-miss.
Two topics here. A lot of activities discussed on this site depend on whether
people are saying what they actually mean, unintentionally or deliberately.
"Stop it I like it" involves double-guessing. Words and body
language can be used to double-bluff.
Secondly, before you can make clear to others your personal preferences
- you need to be sure that these are clear in your own mind. Achieving this
can be either a private exercise or an enjoyable shared experience:
one-to-one or even as a group.
Sharing ideas is what brought many of the texts on this site into existence. Different
opinions, like hearing more about different preferences, can offer you
alternatives you might not have thought of. Opportunities for focused
discussion or casual social chat can be valuable,
silent indicators is an area of communication well worth exploring.
Visually transmitting needs, wishes, intentions can be hit-and-miss. Discussion of this topic includes two sets of workshop notes and magazine articles listed under this head.